5 Things that just make S*x BETTER!

Why is good sex rare?

Who is to blame?

What is the cause ?

Where did we go wrong?

How can we fix it?!

Lets start with the WHY

Two words: Modern Society.

Every day we are exposed to tragedy, Stress, New ideas, Negative exposer and the list just goes on!

Everyday, In the modern day society we are faced with high expectations. Being the complex mammals we are, We have managed to create a reality in which none of us can manage. Of course we struggle to have good sex , Because good sex requires us to let go of our stressors and be present in the moment. ( On a positive note there is always hope, We have the opportunity's to relearn how to manage our mental state and wellbeing. ) To be able to 'Let go' is something that most of us are unable to do, We have wired ourselves to run on adrenalin which often leads to us feeling mentally and physically exhausted.

Who's to blame?

The obvious answer is OURSELVES. But if we dig a little bit below the surface of that answer we can narrow it down to... Expectations and Habits.

Did you know, It only takes a couple of weeks for Humans to normalise something that is abnormal?

Saying that , I want you to think about how long you have been saying "I'm exhausted" after a day of work ... or even just simply living. We only tend to truly enjoy life when everything is planned and structured. For example ; Going out for dinner with your partner. The reservation is booked, Youve already looked at the menu, You have 2 hours to get ready ... Surly having everything planed would release some stress? 'Be spontaneous' they say ... as though you haven't been living like a military planner for the past 5+ years. Habits take time to break and new ones take time to learn.

Where did we go wrong?

I want you to answer this question for yourself...

HMMMM... I hope you figured that one out yourself.

How can we fix it?

Everyone's recovery from self destruction looks very different. But overall we have one thing in common.

We are alive here and now

The first step; Take a step back and look at your life for what it really is! Point out every single flaw and divide them into two sections.

Section one: Things that are in my control.

Section two: Things that are out of my control.

The second step; Take section two and give it back to whoever it belongs too.

The third step; Create small steps to demolish your First section, Without pressure or guilt.

And after all of that, You might just start to feel a slight tingling in your pants.

Its never to late to start living your own life.

If you were hoping for a blog more dedicated to eating oysters or using strawberry flavoured lube, then I apologies for this traumatic live-action of your past, present and future. But whenever you are ready. I will be here ready to tell you the truth. No disguises and DEFFIENTLY NO STRAWBERRY LUBE.

With love

Phoenix